Sooner or later in your dreams your ex or your ex husband will come back to be alive, that’s for sure. Dreaming of the ex-boyfriend or a breakup or divorce awakens dormant emotions, moods you had forgotten; multiple memories are reworked and returned to consciousness.
The dream can occur in the immediacy of the break, even if it was you who interrupted the relationship.
There are those who dream of the former very often, every night; there are those who come back to dream it after many years. These are all normal situations, although it may seem strange that a person from the past is still so present in your mind.
In this article I often speak of ex-men (ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, ex-husband, etc.), but obviously everything I say is also true for women. Dreaming of your current partner (boyfriend, husband) may mean that you are comparing yourself to her, you feel insecure.
The same is true when you dream of your girlfriend’s ex: low self-esteem is the basis of these dreams.
Divorce Symbolism in Cultures
Dreaming of the divorce is very common and can cause positive feelings or abandonment and rejection. It doesn’t always happen because you are still in love with him, it could mean instead that there are outstanding issues to be solved.
Sometimes these dreams reveal to us the dissatisfactions that we are currently experiencing in our lives: fears, insecurities and the dream becomes, therefore, a way to face difficult situations, which perhaps we are living in our new relationship. Let’s find out why we dream of the divorce and what to do if the dream becomes recurrent.
If in the dream your ex is sad or crying, then it can be a sense of guilt that emerges through this oneiric representation. If instead in the dream you are persecuted by the former, it could mean that the fault of the end of the story is yours, or at least it is what you believe or want to believe.
There may be unresolved problems with the former, especially if the dream occurs even when we are with another person. So even if you thought you had exceeded everything, there is still something wrong in your heart.
for this reason, the former with whom we still have to clarify some situations, appears to us in a dream. Our subconscious needs to clear the fog.
So do not be afraid to investigate thoroughly, to reflect and resolve the issue, understanding what is still so bad for us.
Dreams about Divorce – Meaning
There are many other meanings, as you will see going forward in reading. It is romantic to believe that a former love that appears in dreams means that he is thinking of you, or that you should go back with him … But there is no reason to jump to these conclusions, especially if you are now fine with another person.
the former can appear in dreams in times of stress and discomfort, especially if your relationship has been turbulent. This serves as a warning, to avoid falling into the mistakes of the past, even in relation to a current sentimental bond that you are experiencing with another partner.
the dream can make you relive positive experiences and good times lived with the former. This can help you understand what you could do to be happier, what you lack in life (more freedom, more passion, more carefree, being together with someone, etc.).
your ex embodies sides of your character that you have neglected or disowned (your “shadow”, in Jungian terms); in this sense it is a positive dream, which leads to greater awareness, the recovery of these qualities and an enhancement of your personality.
the former in the dream can represent your partner now, maybe because you perceive them as ‘similar’; even if they don’t look alike, they are connected by the role they play in your life. For example, this dream can happen when you start a new relationship with another person.
Even if you don’t think about your ex-boyfriend anymore, and even if you are very much in love with another man now, that person has left an ’emotional trace’ in your psyche, which cannot be erased.
Even if you no longer feel anything for him, even if you never think of it during the day, moments of life can happen when, for one reason or another, on a dreamlike level he comes back because he is a true ‘symbol’ of situations, emotions, phases of your life.
Dreams about Divorce – Symbolism
If you lived a great love with your ex, your souls were really united and therefore something of him survives in you, even after many years; the bond that has been created is indelible, and can be felt in dreams by communicating to you something that concerns that person, even after years of not seeing it.
This also explains why sometimes the dream is premonitory: you dream of your ex and soon after you meet him, or receive his news; it is because of that special bond.
In the immediacy of divorce – even if you left the ex, even if you don’t regret this choice because you believe you did the right thing, the separation is still a trauma, more or less great, from which you have to recover; the dream helps you become aware of the end of the marriage.
When the marriage ends without a reason – if you have been abandoned without explanation, or in any case some important points have remained unanswered, the separation is particularly painful and there is a great tendency to mull over what happened. In this case the dream can be therapeutic and restorative.
Your ex was violent –even in this case the dream helps you recover from the trauma and distance yourself from the person who hurt you.
When you are about to start a new marriage – the dreams about your ex can become very frequent because you need to free your conscience from its cumbersome ‘shadow’. Even before the wedding it can happen that you dream of the ex so many times.
Dreaming of your first love, the first boy or girl you have been with – is a dream that can occur periodically throughout your life. Perhaps the dream wants to bring you back to those feelings of freshness, freedom and vital impulse that are missing in your current marriage; you need a marriage without problems, without managers a carefree, spontaneous, clean and romantic like the one you lived in your adolescence.
Post-divorce dream – the ex comes back, looks at you, writes to you, sends you a message, calls you, looks for you, apologizes, wants to get back together, make peace with you; maybe he says “I love you” and asks you to marry him.
They can occur either in the case where you left it, or vice versa; they show nostalgia, but at the same time they help you get used to the idea that that person is no longer part of your life.
Dreaming of the ex who kisses you, embraces you, making love with the ex, marrying him, being pregnant with the ex – they are all dreams that indicate that you are somehow ‘united’ to that person, because he helped to form the your personality.
Dreaming of ex with a new girlfriend, who is getting married, expecting a child: if you dream of an ex-boyfriend who has another, who is about to become a father – this indicates that you have accepted the end of the story, even if you still keep a bond special with him; seeing him happy is a good sign.
The same is true if you dream that your ex girlfriend is with another, gets married, is pregnant.
Dreaming ex sad, crying, hurting, asking for help, injured, sick, in the hospital – are all dreams that manifest a sense of guilt towards him. Even this dream can indicate that you feel guilty towards him, especially if he commits suicide.
Dreaming of killing ex – this may indicate that the marriage ended in a non-peaceful way; such a dream can also be a reaction to his excessive pressure and insistence.
Conclusion
The appearance of your ex in a dream can be very different from what he actually is. This may indicate a different way to consider it on your part; for example, dreaming of the former in black and white, from the back, dressed in black, could indicate that you feel him far away, that you consider him more detached.
Seeing it aged or with a beard can also mean that you perceive it as more mature. Hopefully this dream interpretation was helpful and you were able to find the meaning of your dream.